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Tips to Prepare Your Marriage for Retirement
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At the appropriate time in your career, choosing to retire is one of the many milestones you’ll encounter as a couple. Individually it means that the freedom to travel and do those projects you’ve been meaning to do around the house has finally come. As a couple, however, retirement can mean a real shift in your relationship. Whether you and your spouse make the decision to retire at the same time or not, there will need to be some adjustments in your lifestyle.

After retirement hits, some couples experience a lull in conversation. If your marriage has consisted of conversation revolving around your work lives, what will you talk about now? Will you have anything to talk about at all? Other couples may have plenty to talk about but struggle with not being always ‘on-the-go’ with deadlines to meet, projects to keep their mind occupied and meetings to lead. While your relationship may never be quite ‘ready’ for the retirement stage, your marriage can survive it – with some personal adjustment, a new routine and allowing a long overdue opportunity to spend quality time with the one you love.

Plan Your Retirement Date Wisely

There are ways to keep your marriage afloat while having the retired life you dream of. Choosing the right time of your life to retire is the first important ingredient to an easier transition. After all, you don’t want to be the first spouse to retire just as your partner gets laid off due to unexpected downsizing; this can only start your retirement off on a difficult foot. Many couples experience postponing or moving up their retirement date depending on their situation at home. Choose your date wisely and be flexible and understanding about your partner’s needs.

Be Supportive of Your Partner

Even if you feel confident about your finances and are sure that you and your spouse will have a comfortable nest egg to take care of all of your needs when you retire, it’s important to recognize the new and additional needs your spouse may have as well. For example, if your wife has always been the one to take care of the home and the children, she may go through her own period of transition with you no longer working as you once did. Is she feeling cramped? Does she express the need to have ‘alone time’ and need your support? How will you share household chores? How will you spend your free time together? As with any other challenge that has surfaced in your marriage, work on communicating what you want and need and ask him/her to do the same.

Vamp Up a Social Life

No one can deny it – a busy work life can often put our social life on the back burner. Now that you’re retiring, you will have the time for friends and family like you haven’t had for years. So, how do you make the most of it? Coming up with a plan about various activities you love doing together as a couple can help cement an easier transition into retirement. Do you enjoy reading together? Consider joining a weekly book club. Join a bowling league, plan a couple’s cruise to the Bahamas or get involved in a local charity. Whatever you enjoy doing doesn’t matter so much as the opportunity to do them together. After all, you have the time, so why not?

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